How can I persuade my partner that we should use a condom?

The use of condoms is not common in all parts of our world. I found a very nice list of statements that you can use if you meet someone who doesn`t want to use a condom.

EXCUSE - ANSWER
Don't you trust me? - Trust isn't the point, people can have infections without realising it
It does not feel as good with a condom - I'll feel more relaxed, If I am more relaxed, I can make it feel better for you.
I don't stay hard when I put on a condom - I'll help you put it on, that will help you keep it hard.
I don't have a condom with me - I do
Putting it on interrupts everything - Not if I help put it on
I guess you don't really love me - I do, but I am not risking my future to prove it
I will pull out in time - Women can get pregnant and get STDs from pre-ejaculate
But I love you - Then you'll help us to protect ourselves.
Just this once - Once is all it takes

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A Bar in Venezuela

Machismo is very much alive in South America and I love it. It was my last night in Venezuela when I arrived to a bar I had been the previous Saturday night. The bartender recognized me and came over to chat me up. It didn´t take long before he swept me away into the one and only bathroom in the club, guarded by a large woman. He whispered something in her ear and came in with me. We were hot and heavy kissing immediately. I left the bathroom hot and returned to my friends, he to his work. My next trip to the bathroom he followed me again, this time with a condom and a big, hard member. It was the best I had in Venezuela and I think I shall return to that bar again someday soon.... if I could only remember his name.

I have never …

Do you know these parties where at a certain stage of alcohol consumption people come up with the idea to play “I have never…”

It is about...

Officially it is a game to get to know each other better and to find out some really special and also bad things people have done so far in their lifes. When you play it the first time you don’t have a clue what kind of questions will come up.

The intensity of the questions depends very much on the participants. And of course it is also different with different cultures that are involved ;o) I had the best rounds with people from Eastern Europe so far.

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The Rules
The rules are simple. Everyone has something to drink. Then one person starts and says something that he has never done in his life so far. (i.e. I have never stolen something.) BUT this must be absolutely true!!! And whatever is said in the round stays in the round. Everyone who actually had done what the person said has to drink now. (here: everyone who have stolen something already). If there is the exception that noone has ever done what you expressed you have to drink. (That way too excotic or stupid statements are avoided) Then the next person in the round gives his statement and so on.

The Athmosphere

Usually people start with this kind of statements. But normally it only takes one or more rounds and the topic sex comes up. And then it is getting interesting. So finally you realize that this game is only there to talk about sex. As soon as some people realize it they change. They get or embarassed or active ;o) It is always fun to see the people changing in that moment.

Everytime I played that game I was shocked by the experiences some people had and especially people from whom I would have never expect it from.

One interesting thing is that whenever it is your turn to come up with a new statement you can`t think of anything you have never done because you only think of the experiences you have already made. The only thing that helps in that case is to think what dreams you have and what were the stories you read or heard from others.

Some Examples

But for those who can`t think of anything - here are some examples. And please do not bore the people with statements like: “I have never been to this and that country” or “I have never been trying this sport” Uaah.

Better statements are:

I have never had sex with (a person from the same sex, a person from this round, the person next to me, …)
I have never had sex in/on/at/….(places, events, times)
I have never had sex with more/less than … people …( at the same time/ in one night/ in my life)
I have never had (oral/ group/ …) sex

So I hope the next rounds will be extremely interesting! ;o)

Principles

Once I spent some time in France. There I got to know a guy from UK who was there to study French. I would have never believed that people like him still exsist.
He was a full gentleman, educated in a very old fashioned way with the strongest principles I could imagine. He got up every morning at 6 am, made his bed, made excersises and read the newspaper. He never drunk and couldn’t understand why people got drunk at parties. He prefered to go to bed early instead of partying with us till the morning. And he didn´t want to have sex before marriage. I was just astonished. I couldn`t understand that. So far it sounds like he was a terrible boring guy, right? But he wasn`t. He was very intelligent, communicative, funny and warm. And besides that he was very handsome and had a perfect body. All his principles made him somehow very special . He was so innocent and sensitive. I just couldn`t stop myself from loving him. And then he fell in love with me. I never saw someone fighting so much with oneself. He was fighting against his desires and tried to stop himself. I could see and feel his passion and saw how desperate he was. It was all in his eyes. He looked at me with so much love that I felt a wave of energy going through my body. I never tried to seduce him because I didn`t want to make it even harder for him. But sometimes you just look into someones eyes and then it happens.
We never took the last step. Nevertheless we went much too far for him already. But the heart is always stronger than the head.

Love in India

Hey all trainees in India! Did you try to have a romantic experience in that country? It is almost imposssible. I went crazy about it. I will try to explain why.

In India it is absolutely not possible to show any love in public – that means no kissing, no huging, not even holding hands (of course I don`t need to mention sex in public). I was told that once when there was a movie shot that supposed to have a kissing scene there were people who tried to stop that shooting. Crazy! And when you just start to fall in love you want to kiss all the time and everywhere, right? It just killed me. There was just one place in “public” where you can kiss from time to time and especially in the night – the Riksha :o).

Well furthermore you always share your flat with other people. Usually trainees don`t have their own room. So what can you do when you just start to fall in love? There is no place where you can be alone with your love. Well of course you could go out with the person of your dream alone. That way you could at least talk with her or him openly about your feelings. BUT if you do that everyone would be suspicious immedeately because in India you suppose to go out with a lot of friends and people. Damn! So try to find excuses why you have to be with that person alone. I really became creative in that time. The best excuse is work. You have a meeting about something. Or you have to see a really bad or boring movie (and when you are happy no one would join you). That’s perfect. Now you have a reason but still no place. Well if you get an office room, cool. If not you have to arrange the meeting at a time where you can be sure that no one is at home. This was the best solution for me.

And you can imagine the extra tense because of the danger that in any minute somebody could come home…

Atually the best solution is that you inform your room mates about your relationship and beg them to keep that private. If you are a non-indian boy falling in love with an Indian girl – very difficult… Parents are very strict. Most probably they would be against that relationship. If you a non-indian girl and fall in love with an Indian boy – difficult as well. You have to find out if the feelings of the boy are real, because in India boys who match a non-indian girl are considered as hot. They gossip a lot about it.

Hey gyus but nevertheless, I can tell you, if you find solutions for all these challenges it is definetly worth it. ;o) There is some exotic magic about this culture.

A European Girl in Africa

Once I have been in Africa for 4 weeks. In some parts of the country where our project team was, people have never seen Europeans before. Well as you might know Africans are very positive, social and communicative people. Where ever we have been it just took moments to be surrounded by many people. We got to know not only people we were working with but also the people from the city. It was a really great time.

As a European you appear to be kind of an exotic person, especially as a girl. On the second day I had already my first offer to marry an African boy. He told me that he fell in love with me immediately. Of course I took it as a joke but the guy insisted on that. He said that he doesn’t mean it as a joke at all. I was just astonished. Of course I had been told that in Africa marrying a European girl can be interesting for different reasons. I told him, that he can’t be in love with me after one day because in my opinion it takes more time. But he was not moving from his statement at all. We were really discussing that topic for some time. Well I have to admit that I was somehow impressed by his stubborn way and his self-confidence. Then he told me that he wouldn’t let me go without a kiss. (The others were standing and talking quite close). I was just flabbergasted. His direct and saucy way was somehow irritating but also attractive. Have you ever been discussing with someone about a kiss? Well it sounds crazy but I did. And I also have never met a boy before who doesn’t give up if you tell him that you are not interested. Well maybe my body language was not concrete enough. ;o) At the end I couldn’t resist anymore and kissed him. And heyyyy it was quite nice. These lips…

In four weeks I got to know African lips and bodies better … ;o) Hey girls have you seen better bodies so far? And these kisses... Trust me you have to try these ;o)

At the end of my stay I had two more offers to marry and some other guys who were in love with me - just crazy. Two of them were crying so hard at my last day that I could physically feel the pain. I never experienced that before - Passion in all ways.

Turkey in Brazil

Some weeks in Brazil can be exciting by themself already. All this erotic athmosphere around you. The beaches with sexy people, the sun, the drinks. If you go to a party it means that you have to end at least kissing with one or more people.
I was just shocked in the beginning. In a club just everybody was kissing from time to time. And I truely had difficulties to avoid being kissed myself. Well I was a bit shy. I asked the Brazilians how they can just kiss so many people in such a short time. In my country it happens very rarely that you are going to kiss at all in a club. But they just said: " Well, we like to kiss. Don`t you like it, too?" Well, I was just speachless. But usually it is also only kissing. There doesn`t happen more.
Well of course I needed to try a Brazilian kiss. And I have to admit, they are very good kissers. But it was not only me who was irritated by this culture. A Turkish felt the same. Well and I experienced for the first time the attraction that lies in the feeling of being a stranger. Both of us were in a foreign country, feeling the minimum similarities that connected us and differentiated us from them.

We had the most romantic time that you can imagine. We spent some days together at lonely beaches at an island with just us in that romantic athmoshere. During that time I recognized that sexual experience is not relevant as long as you are open minded and curious to learn... We never met again after our stay in Brazil. But the memory is unforgettable.

Pros and Cons

Yesterday evening we were discussing with some friends the differences between different cultures and sharing our experiences. So we came up with a (not too serious) list of reasons to match or not to match with different cultures.

Reasons to match with French:
French is the best language, right? ;)
they are very romantic
l’amour toujours
the foreplay contains always as nice meal
they enjoy

Reasons to match with Germans:
they are structured, there is a beginning, a main phase and a closing
they are on time
they have their first kiss in the age of 12 and are sexually experienced
homosexuals are spontaneous
they don’t live with their parents and have their own bed
they kiss in public
they are deep dark dirty lakes (especially Eastern Germans)

Reasons to match with Indians:
they know the Kamasutra
they want to marry you right away
they all want to match with non-indians

Reasons to match at an international conference:
if you are an excibitionist you will be in the perfect environment
broaden your horizon
you can choose between a lot of willing people
you most probably won’t see your match again

Reasons not to match with AI:
they don’t have time
power is attractive to too many people (you are not alone)
to many strategies, no implementation

Reasons not to match at an international conference:
witin 5 minutes the whole world knows about it
long distance relationships suck
there is just one condom in your welcome package
you won’t find a place to match, all places are busy

Reasons not to match with an Indian:
they are not as experienced as you are
they might match with you because they want to impress others
they stay in one room with 5 people and can’t tell them about you

Experiences around the globe

Well this blog is going to be here to talk about the erotic experiences that we make around the globe. It need to be said that you can`t generalize the experiences as these are just moments out of eternity. Hopefully lots of people will share their experiences here as well.

All the best, Your Global Erotic Team